you guys should all head to uni after ur install party saturday night i should hopefully have my downpipe then and installed im hoping and i want to check out the pedders.

 

that would be cool...unless someones install goes bad hahhahahha I know something is going to get f'd up..always does. but we are starting early so it should be a good time lol. I cant wait or the dp. I hear it adds like 70whp!! jk.

 

haha get all the stuff in then head down. would be sweet

 

fyi, shifter bushings = awesome. So much easier to pound the gears like a dirty *****.

 

Well without going into detail, my wife and I will be splitting up and getting a divorce down the road sometime. We are going to let the house go into foreclosure and claim bankruptcy. The joys of life. And I always thought it was men who seemed to cheat...the majority of people I know who've cheated are women.

That Parnell is what the FML is about on FB. Also, I may have screwed up a friendship with someone who's been my friend for a long time...I hope she comes around though (in my pain/sadness I more or less said I had feelings for her...not knowing what I was thinking).

That is what my post the other day was about when it came to how long it would take me to become SC. If we stayed together, I wouldn't be getting it done for a long time, but since we're not, I see it in the future (this year). We both need to get finances in order and what not, but since she makes more than I do, she will be getting an apartment in the coming months while I stay in the house until I can afford to be out on my own. Once I'm on my own, we'll see how things go. Working 2 jobs and hopefully having a cheap apartment will allow me to pay my car off this year (my hope)...which means SC.

I'm not concerned with car stuff right now, don't think that's all I'm worried/thinking about...it's a way for me to cope though. Just need to be careful with having 2 tickets in the last month. My son is most important right now. My wife and I will work that out (50/50 custody) and we'll be civil around each other, I don't think there are any bad thoughts about one another, just pain/sadness after 8 years together (almost 4 married).

 

ya I dunno if I'll come friday or saturday..probably saturday morning. I need to ask brett if I can come early and just work on our cars first before Jeff comes then we can get stuff out of the way.

hold up..

So wait, she cheated. now you are splitting up. But why let the house forclose and ruin your credit?

how did you screw up a friendship?

PM me if you dont want to post that personal stuff on the public forum.

 

PM'ed you.

The friendship is a girl I've known for 10 years since high school. I've always liked her and she the "what if" girl. I poured my feelings for her into an email in my emotional wreck moments and she's not been talking to me until the other day...which only a few words were exchanged. I just piled on a bunch of added stress to her already stressful life. She still lives at home, but is a manager at C.R. Showplace 16. Her parents are divorcing and she's going through a lot with that (her parents have been together about 30 years or more). She's got other troubles at work I think as well...so I just added to the stress. I wanted to apologize to her in person and she sent me text saying I have no reason to apologize. So I don't think it's ruined, but I think I need to just give her a good amount of space for now while we both figure out our situations.

Hopefully she'll come around...and I need to slow down and not let all these thoughts/emotions come pouring out at once. My wife even told me just give her time (my wife saw the email as well). So yeah, that's where things stand between this small stuff here and what I PM'ed you.

 

It does get hard on the person listening to someones stress. Here is what happened to me: I had a real serious GF at 18 yrs old. I think we dated for 2 years and she broke up with me. I was so f'ing depressed and it sucked, I would let out feelings to friends as usual. So that summer I went to a psychologist and talked and worked stuff out, felt better, was getting over it. So that next school year, my friend/roommie asked me how I was when we moved in. and I told him, he says to me "good, I'm kind of sick of hearing you complain". that ******* sucked hearing that. My point is, you know who your friends are after **** like that. Jeff, he and I have been through many of the same emotional stuff like that and we are still supporters of eachother and friends. I wouldnt of been okay if he wasnt there to support me. So keep your friends close, they listen, but if you do need help, I recommend going to a psychologist (just talk to you kind not the meds ones) it helps a TON.

If you do love your wife still have you thought about couples counseling? or do you feel its too far gone....

 

No, it's over between us...I can't get past what she's done (even though it could've been worse) and she won't go to counseling. She wouldn't do it when we lost our daughter and she won't do it now. She's very stubborn like that. I think we both could use some counseling, but not couples.

I have a friend (Matt Klukas' roommate actually) who went to school for psychology and has his 4 year degree. He's been great to talk to as he has some personal experience in bad relationships as well as the psych thing. Definitely not the same as going to an actual psychologist, but not bad.

I've dealt with a lot in 4 years. My dad died in 06 (he was only 56...it was my wife and my anniversary...2/6/6...3 years together dating). My dad missed my golden birthday later that year, missed my wedding, buying my first house, first new car (Cobalt although technically 6 months and 12k miles on it), and many other things including my children (he's with my daughter...I believe she's watching over him actually). Anyway, then my daughter was born/died 7/19-20/07. A week after losing her I lost my grandpa (he was 92 so he had lived quite the life and besides that, losing my daughter I really didn't feel anything when I found out my grandpa died because I was mourning her loss). Then a year later we had our son Oliver....best thing in both our lives. We've been through a lot of financial trouble in the past couple years and numerous other things.

I've survived thus far (trust me, I had thoughts....what if's)...I pushed through it and I've become stronger. I see hope and enjoy life and all that goes with it (and I endure the bad as well because that's part of life).

Anyway, I'm off to bed...need to get up early...I was up till 3 last night and getting up at 5:30-5:45 doesn't work so well on a couple hours sleep.

Oh, one last thing...I found out what the clunking problem in my struts was yesterday...I tore it all apart, put it all back together...found nothing (didn't pull the pillow mounts off the strut, but pulled the assembly out from strut tower to check out the pillow mounts and make sure they were lined up).

After everything went back in, I tried bouncing the car with the hood open and what do I notice...both of the nuts for the pillow mounts weren't tight like they should be...just a few turns...grab the impact wrench and have a go at it...they both tighten. Take it for a spin and the car handles BEAUTIFULLY!!!!!!

I need an alignment now I can tell, but it's such a comfy ride compared to the Sportlines/FE1....I'm in love.

 

hey i know how u guys feel kinda, i was with a girl i cared for more than anything. We started dating when i was a sophmore in high school, it was great for the first two years then things got sketchy we verbally fought alot and she began to cheat and lie to me i stayed with her cause i cared so much for her but she just kept doing it i couldnt take it and so we had to end it. we ended up going to the same collage and we saw eachother and started to hang out all the time again and then **** went bad again so i had to go through this same **** over and over its heartbreaking its been over a year and i still am not over her

/rant

 

your first love never leaves your head. ever.

 

that sucks so much and its true i think about her 24/7 and obviously 007cobaltls has been through a **** ton more but i am really strugglin with this girl ha i just dont EVER stop thinkin about her

 

That's so true. I'm married now and completely love my wife but my first love....wow, I still have dreams of getting back with her and everything. Nothing can compare.

 

that is so sad i mean think about it nothing can compare...wtf is there to look forward to then i mean i want to have that love in my life and if nothing compares thats a real let down

 

it goes away after you start dating again. so for me its like only randomly you think back. I've met better females that fit me but you just remember them....not sad or anything just a memory then life goes on. I bet its like once a month you think back. it all depends how the current relationship is going.

 

my first love is a heartless selfish ****.

so unless you mean by never leaving my head cuz i hate her so much... then well yes you're right

 

meh its just how your brain rationalizes it. Every girl you date after you usually pick a better compatible person. its just you ONLY REMEMBER THE GOOD from the first love. you dont remember the bad.

 

i honestly think back like twice an hour and thats if im busy if im alone its just a constant thought of her

 

ya you are still in the process of the break up man.. It took me like a year to finally get to a psychologist and a year after that to finally not care about her and move on. first one you love takes a lot to get over, but believe me. It helps so much after that break up cuz you realize what you want, what you dont want in a partner.

 

What have I started? LOL.

 

yeah man that makes so much sense its only been a year since we broke up i thought i would be over it by now but i guess not kinda sucks thinkin i got another year felling like this but hopefully i get through it but what really blows is i never meet anyone new i live in a small town and know everyone i wish i had a way to get out and meet more ppl ya know
meet some new girls and what not

 

what you need to do; well what I did was, studied my ass off, hung out with friends and did activities. Do anything you can with other people. Try not to stay alone. Write stuff down, like journal your feelings. Go be active and get hobbies. After you start to act like a single person that can live on their own and you are happy. You attract new friends and females. TONS of them. ask jeff about me. I'm shy, but when I get in a group of people and theirs females I start hitting on them like crazy but I dont even know it. Because I just have fun being myself and not putting pressure to get a girlfriend. I just have fun and that attracts them to me. if you are positive, funny and yourself people will want to be around you. Hence the not alone thing, then you get mopey and feel sorry for yourself.

 

yeah your right haha im in the mopey stage still maybe gettin my stage 2 on will help me out a bit haha thanks for the pep talk guys lol

 

hoffa i am not a ****, you still heart me.

emotions man...males usually have a hard time with them but getting them out helps! Just trying to spread my learning experience. It may feel like the last girl was "the one" but its not true! you will find better girls in the future, ones you hand pick for better qualities that you want in a partner. If you are younger, just date, dont need to commit to marriage anytime soon. Date, learn about yourself, have fun, be safe. Marriage is for like 30yr olds. If i was in a serious relationship I couldnt do half the **** I do now, I am loving being single with a few side flings.

 

Mine has, shes dating my brothers friend now. And I could care less shes pretty chunky now